You are enough.

You as you are, right in this very moment, with all of your flaws and all of your challenges, mistakes, and positive attributes are ENOUGH. There is nothing more you have to do for the rest of your life to be enough of a person to deserve love. No amount of money, objects, people, achievements, followers, or likes, or anything else will ever mean anything about whether you are enough or not. YOU ARE. It is OKAY to be imperfect, to be alone, to be poor, to be unsuccessful, to be someone who has given up. It’s okay, because you have the future ahead of you to make things better. It starts with knowing where you are and loving yourself for that.

You are loved.

We spend a lot of our energy looking outside of us to be loved, and anything outside of our thoughts and actions is out of our control. Therefore, if our love is outside of us, it’s outside of our control. You might say you don’t have anyone in your life who loves you, and that may include yourself. Only you can love yourself enough to truly feel loved. A safe relationship provides you with a new definition of what love looks like, and thus you begin loving yourself differently and heal. Don’t wait for a relationship to redefine what loves looks like for you, change the way you love yourself now. Stop treating yourself based on how your parents or friends have treated you, and treat yourself the way you WANT to love someone else. Whether you feel it or not, you are always loved, because you are always with you.

You are more than your suffering.

Our brains are evolutionarily formed to keep us safe, not keep us happy. If we did not grow up in an emotionally and physically safe environment, we carry this sense of danger into our adulthood and it robs us of a present, peaceful, enjoyable, and connected experience. We stay on high alert at all times because we have been conditioned to have to defend ourselves from the youngest of ages from forces that were way bigger and scarier than our young minds could handle. I did not know what relaxation was until i was 23 years old, and it only lasted for a brief moment. A moment where nothing had to be done, I didn’t have to be worried, I didn’t have to please anyone. Look for ways to find these moments and make more of them, because you are SO much more than suffering, being stuck in a state of alarm and stress. Think bigger.

The world around you is not a reflection of truth, it is a reflection of conditioned understanding.

Society wants to tell us how things are so that way we fall in line with the norms, which makes it easier for large scale entities to manage humanity. Getting a job, building a family, buying a house, and living happily ever after is a very common narrative told to us from the environment, and creates a lot of stress for a lot of people to try to meet that standard. Please realize this is just an idea that lots of people agreed on because of what we’ve been conditioned to think throughout history, it is not a fact. Ideas of how your life should/will be that did not come from your own desires do not always lead to eternal bliss and happiness. It’s not bad be live within the “box” that society paints for you, but if you never think outside of it and challenge what that “box” is about, you limit yourself to that box. Take a moment sometime to think about what would make you happy outside of that box, and don’t be afraid to pursue it.

If you’ve forgotten the language of gratuity, you’ll remain disconnected from the experience of happiness and joy.

Being grateful is the foundational experience required to have access to joy, peace, and happiness. You won’t find any of these if you are constantly focused on something being wrong, rather than focused on appreciating what is going right. Be grateful for what you have, however small it might be: your steady breaths, your eyes being able to read this, the technology giving you access to this information, these are things not available to everyone on Earth.

I am proud of how far you have come, and you should be too.

I don’t need to know you to know you’ve had your own challenges that have made your life very difficult in its own way. People make a choice every day to persevere their challenges and continue on to the next day. Sadly., some people are lead to making the choice to not see the next day of their lives. For that reason, this part of this page is dedicated to you, the unseen person who has struggled so hard in the dark with no one to see how hard you’ve worked to just get to where you are now. You have done a great job, and I am proud of you for still being here through it all, despite what may have happened to get here. You are doing the best you can, and that’s what matters.

Process and progress over outcome and results.

Focusing your efforts on how the process is going, day by day, step by step, effort by effort, will allow you to continue forward towards your goal and be renewed with each step forward. This is the key to consistency. Keep the long term goals and vision in mind, but do not let it become the consuming focus. If your brain only rewards you when you hit a goal, you don’t want to be miserable every single day while working towards your goal; that’s torture. Reward yourself for all the small things, everything tiny that gets you towards where you want to go.

I will continue adding to this list as time goes on; KEEP GOING FORWARD!!